Monday, January 9, 2012

How to put it nicely

I am going to get on my soapbox for 1 blog post. It is something that weighs on my heart and I feel makes everybody have just a tinge of insecurity about themselves. I have fallen quilty many times to comparing my life, marriage, parenting to other peoples through social medias, to the point that it has effected my daily life because I wonder what is wrong with x, y, or z in my life.  I have never been able to figure out why everyone always feels the need to act like their life is perfect. So many people constantly only post the positive and don't get me wrong I think trying to be positive is always good, but I don't get the vibe that is their intention. It is as if they want everybody to think they are not human in how perfect they make their life out to be. The perfect marriage, house, job, kids, you know the people. I think we would all feel a little more secure in ourselves if everyone, who chooses to expose their life whether it be through facebook, blogging, twitter, etc..., was honest about their life.

 I just think people have stopped acting REAL! What is so wrong with other people knowing you have struggles in your life?!? Life can be joyous and life can be hard. I would much rather have people around me in the joyous and even more so in the hard than try to keep up with the perfect persona and be isolated when life gets hard.

I can't tell you how many times I have read something that I completely relate to that somebody has posted and it makes me feel a little more secure and normal in the person I am. It is my goal in 2012 to find my balance in between being honestly happy and honestly real. For people to feel like they can relate to me and know I have my struggles in my marriage, in parenting, and there are skeletons in my closet too.

Here is where I will start. I struggle sooo much with my body image. When I was pregnant I was obssessed with not gaining to much weight and gave myself a 12 week window after delivery to get back to my pre pregnancy weight. I have been like this as long as I remember. Body image has always been one of the tops things on my list. Sometimes when I look at myself it breaks my heart a little that it is soo important to me. In my head I know there are so many more important things in life than body image and my goal in 2012 is to let go and focus the energy that I am no longer using on obssessing about my body image to reading the Bible, playing with Crewe, and being okay if I miss a work-out.

Ok I am steppin down :)

I would love to hear about goals you have set to make you a better you.

And just so I don't have a post without a picture.I Love, Love, Love when this little guy sits with one leg tucked up and the other sticking straight out.


  1. I completely agree. The truth sets you free right? It's a good balance to find of being humble and open and yet positive. I am trying to be more positive in 2012 and focus on what is noble pure and right...

  2. So proud of you for being true to yourself!